Ex. 22:20-26; Ps 18:2-4, 47, 51; 1 Thes. 5c-10; Mt. 22:34-40
What is love? Today Jesus in the gospel connects two passages from the Mosaic Law, love of God from Deuteronomy 6:5 with love of neighbor from Leviticus 19:18. He makes it clear that all the 600 laws plus in the scripture can be summarized in these two commandments and you cannot have one without the other. If we claim to love God then we keep his word by demonstrating our love for neighbor that is every other human being is the evidence of our love of him. Two sides of the same coin, love of neighbor fulfills our love of God. He is the head and we are the followers.
What is love then? In Exodus from the Old Testament law, we hear the words “You shall not” repeated often comprising of many specific laws of how to treat others. There is an equivalency in the old law with obedience as a sign of love. I once had a very young couple in counseling and I asked the young man to complete the sentence to his wife “I know you love me when…” He said “I know you love me when your obedient to me.” “Houston, we have a problem” to quote the movie Apollo 13. The God complex is when we act as God and expect to be served and not to serve. Jesus comes to overturn the tables and say to love is to serve and not be served. He serves in healing the sick, multiplying bread and fish to feed the thousands, raising the dead. What is love? Love is to serve.
What else is love? We hunger for love without the cross of suffering. However, as song says, “you can’t have one without the other” for true love is sacrificial. That is why the Church has a crucifix with Jesus on the cross reminding us of what true love requires. It is to live and to die for the one we love. We have forgotten how to suffer, to carry our cross, to offer it up and allow God to bring good even out of the persecution from others. We pray for “our way” not for the will of God. Love has become a soft teddy bear we control and manipulate and wear out to meet our needs. The two great commandments reveal our love for God in the cross we bear. Suffering often raises the question of “Why, God?” We should not ask “why” but “what”. What do you ask of me? What is your will that I may follow? Love is to sacrifice.
The first reading reminds us that God is witness to all that we do. The law of reciprocity in which it is in giving that we receive, it is in loving that we are loved and it is in dying to ourself that we are born again. We cannot outgive our God who multiplies our riches in Christ with his blessings. The law of reciprocity also reveals that love and justice come together in love and there are consequences for our misdeeds. Love does not ignore misdeeds but holds us accountable. Love is justice.
Christ came to transform our hearts that by his mercy upon us we may to be a people of mercy and charity. It leads us to a greater good in the true image of God. Charity places the good of the other before our benefit because we trust in God to provide for our needs as we provide for others. Jesus was condemned because he dared to forgive sins revealing himself as God the Son. In love we forgive as an act of the will not as a feeling. As a child of God love is mercy.
Love requires time. When a child is born our love pours out unconditional and sacrificial. Babies require time, lots of time. We sleep with our ears alert for any sound and as they grow up, we don’t stop hovering over them as helicopter parents “but” we still have expectations of them as they grow. Love is building a relationship with the one we love. God desires our time in prayer, adoration, and church. We don’t have time, make time for each other. The bond of love is relational.
Love has expectations because it is relational and requires for there to be truth, “just don’t lie to me”; goodness “no temper tantrums”, beauty “comb your hair”; and unity “we all go to church on Sunday.” “But why?” It is hard being a parent, imagine how it is for God with us as his children when he gives us his commandments and we break them.
We would think that with the coming of Jesus the transformation of the law would happen rapidly but for many even today God remains more as a distant, authoritative, and legalistic God than a personal, compassionate, loving Father. It begs the question, how are these individuals in living their authority as parents, bosses, judges, or in their priesthood or religious authority? In the old days it was not uncommon for a priest to hit you on the head or for a nun to use a ruler on your hands. Before Vatican II a Bishop would do a gentle slap on the face at Confirmation as a reminder to be ready to suffer for the faith.
The more secular the world becomes the further from God are its norms. The “woke” culture is one of entitlement not sacrifice, safe spaces not discourse, tries to cancel the voices who question as “hate speech” rather than the right to free speech. Jesus always engaged the Pharisees and Sadducees in dialogue even as they tried to trap him and persecute him.
I love you! These three magical words we all love to hear. Remember the hand sign to say it with one gesture? It is in sign language the “I”, “L”, and “Y” all together to say “I love you”. Sometimes we don’t say it enough and sometimes when we say it, we don’t show it enough. The heart of Jesus says “show me” the same way our hearts need to see love in action.
What is love? “God is love, and whoever remains in love remains in God and God in him” (1 Jn. 4:16)

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